The English Mansion’s Femdom & Kink Dictionary

I’m thinking hard here about new entries…

The English Mansion’s Femdom & Kink Dictionary

Edging: Where a sub is brought to the edge of orgasm, then denied release, usually done over and over again.

Newbie: Someone new to BDSM, not derogatory.

Subspace: The natural high a bottom may experience during an intense physical, psychological or emotional scene.

Subdrop: An emotional and physical low, experienced by submissive individuals after an intense scene. It begins anywhere from a few hours to a few days after the endorphin high and can last for hours or days.

Topping from the bottom: Where a submissive or bottom attempts to manipulate the Top in an attempt to gain attention or to have their own needs met, for ex. intentionally misbehaving in order to be punished.

Vanilla: a) Person who is not in the BDSM/fetish lifestyle. b) Anything not involving kinky activities, for ex. a vanilla job. c). Behaviour which does not encompass kink activity for ex. vanilla/straight sex).

Service: Acts, chores, or labour, sexual or otherwise performed by a sub for the benefit of a Dom.

Hard Limit: An activity or context for an activity that is considered completely off-limits.

Safeword: A word serving as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end a BDSM scene or scene activity.

Uxy: A submissive husband (as opposed to slave or sub.) (Taken from uxorious – having or showing a great or excessive fondness for one’s wife.)

Vituperess, Vituperation, Vitupe: An expert practitioner in extreme verbal humiliation/ extreme verbal humiliation/ to verbally humiliate. (Taken from vituperation – using bitter and abusive language.)

Florentine: A elaborate flogging technique involving the use of a flogger in each hand. The floggers are then swung in a figure-8 pattern.

Tourist: A sub who visits prodoms only once, no matter the quality of the session, so to be able to claim knowing all the dommes in an area. (Not to be confused with a sub who will visit a few dommes until he finds one compatible with himself.)

Bunny: Someone who bottoms for a demo, for ex. a rope bunny, wax bunny or bondage bunny.

Compersion, Compersive: Pleased or aroused (instead of jealous) when one’s partner has sex or is receiving sexual pleasure from another person.

Jerk Circle: When a group of males all stand in a circle and everyone jerks the person on either the right or the left of them.

Feminatrix: A domme who focuses on training Xdressers and TVs. (This may have been coined by Lady Nina Birch to describe herself with regard to her favoured activities.)

Consensual non-consensuality: A mutual agreement that within defined limits, or subject to a safeword or other restrictions (and common sense), consent to activities is given without foreknowledge of the exact actions planned. For ex. a kidnapping scene.

Iggy: A slave who enjoys public disgrace or public displays of his submission. (Taken from ignominy – public shame or disgrace.)

Minnie Mouse (or Mini): A young sex worker who decides she’s a dominatrix. (Mouse did imply a lack of confidence but it came from the notion she only probably only owned a plastic whip and a leather ‘mini’ skirt. “Mee-ow!”)

Wannabe: Someone who thinks or claims to be knowledgeable about BDSM, but is not. Especially prevalent with new dominants.

Ino: (pronounced ee-no) A kinkster who insists to be addressed in a way related to a D/s role (such as Misstress, Goddess, or even slave), but avoids ever acting in the role. Essentially “all talk”, from acronym for “In Name Only”.

Dollification: The process of transforming into a mindless living doll.

Sissygasm: An ejaculation from anal stimulation, usually while Xdressed.

Vore: A fetish in which people fantasize about devouring a living being alive, or being devoured alive.

Lobcock: A flaccid penis. This is actually 18thC slang but we should bring it back! (Originally a lobcock was a man who was lazy at work.)

Frottage: Rubbing of the body or usually the penis against a person for arousal.

Blue Balls: Slang term, not medical, refers to the pain someone feels in their scrotum from prolonged sexual arousal without ejaculation.

Scene: a) A pre-planned time and space where BDSM activities take place. A scene may occur at a club or some other play space and may or may not include sexual activity. b) ‘The scene’ is also used by BDSM community to refer to itself.

Edge Play: A scene that takes you to the very edge of your psychological limits, often using fear as a tool.

So above are a few old and new femdom related terms I’ve been creating and collating. I want to produce an extensive list for a future blog, so new additions are welcome in our comments section. (Click on this blog’s title and see the section below to leave a reply).