Orgasm Control: His Body, Your Choice Pt1

Orgasm Control: His Body, Your Choice Pt1

The mainstream has a rather limited understanding of BDSM. Typically conjuring images of gimps on their knees licking thigh boots or PVC-clad women wielding whips. Femdom fetplay is so much more that these passé cliches! It encompasses a huge range of sensual and seductive erotic activities. Fiendish games where it is possible to make a sub suffer and scream in agony without the presence of leather boots or raising a welt!  One of the cruellest areas is Orgasm Control where a sub is kept in a intense state of arousal for an extended period with or without being permitted to orgasm. Thus keeping them in a continued state of heightened sexual anticipatory tension. Orgasm control can take many forms, so let explore a few of them…

Prick Teasing
Prick teasing is not physical, it is phycological, there is no actual touching of the penis. Men naturally react to visual sexual stimulus, so being naked or using your body to be sexually inviting or playing with others in front of them is a perfect way to sexually tease them. This could be a cuckolding scene where they are permitted/made to watch the action but kept in chastity or bondage throughout. This heightens the subs humiliation, submission and frustration, and is exciting for everyone else. Once, I kept a slave in bound in tiny chastity under my bed while enjoying myself 😉 the cruelty of them being there listening but unable to see and kept frustrated was super *hot* for me.

Edging
Edging is where the sub’s cock is stroked until they are almost at the brink or ‘edge’ of their orgasm. This can be by means of a HJ (handjob) from another or from instruction during a JOI (Jerk Off Instruction). The domme then stops the direct stimulation or orders it, waits for his arousal to subside and then begins the process over again, and then again. This can be a Domme exercising her total control over a sub, where the stopping is done for cruelty; or a means to have a more intense climax, where the stopping is to build up for the eventual release.

If I want to be extremely cruel I like to see how many times I can edge a cock before either a ruined orgasm is inevitable, or he loses his erection from the sheer frustration, or just from how sore his cock is becoming…

Mistress Courtney, accomplished prick teaser & keyholder

Blue Balls
The domme always controls when or if the sub orgasms. She may give the sub ‘permission to cum’ or she may ‘deny’ his orgasm entirely and lock him in chastity.  If a sub is edged or teased for a long period and then denied, this is called ‘blue balls’. The slave is left highly aroused and in a frustrated denied state. He learns to ache and suffer for his Mistress. A slave’s balls can also be ‘brewed up’ over a long period of chastity/denial making them ‘heavier & fuller’ and the slave more keen & obedient.

Ruined Orgasms
This is a very cruel kink, during a HJ, you bring the slave to the point where orgasm is inevitable, the point of no return! He IS about to cum. Then abruptly let go of the penis, stopping all stimulation. You must quickly break all physical contact/stimulation of the cock. To properly ‘ruin’ the orgasm this must be done either just half-a-second before the climax, or immediately on the 1st spurt.

This ‘ruins’ the sub’s orgasm entirely, he achieves a physical release but gets no real pleasure or satisfaction from his orgasm. Leaving him unsatisfied and often in a state of emotional and physical frustration. It also prevents the sub from continuing to enjoy being aroused by dissipating all the sexual build up. This often works well if your charge is bound up and cannot touch himself in anyway. Also a good way to shrivel his cock down quickly if you want it back in chastity but without giving him any sexual satisfaction.

I love the whimpers, begging and eventual crying you get after you have taken your hand away, as his seed just dribbles out and his cock twitches in desperation for attention.😉 There are no happy endings when a ruined orgasm is employed.

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